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Typical Characteristics of Co-dependent People
A SELF-INVENTORY -- Take this test.
Directions: Place a number from 1 to 4 in the space before each question to indicate the
degree of your response.
1 = Never
__ 1. I tend to assume responsibility for others' feelings and/or behavior.
__ 2. I have difficulty in identifying my feelings - happy, angry, scared, sad, etc.
__ 3. I have difficulty expressing my feelings.
__ 4. I tend to fear or worry how others may respond to my feelings or behaviors of others.
__ 5. I minimize problems or deny the truth about the feelings or behaviors of others.
__ 6. I have difficulty in forming or maintaining close relationships.
__ 7. I am afraid of rejection.
__ 8. I am a perfectionist and judge myself harshly.
__ 9. I have difficulty making decisions.
__ 10. I tend to be reactive to others rather than to act on my own.
__ 11. I tend to put other people's wants and needs first.
__ 12. I tend to value the opinion of others more than my own.
__ 13. My feelings of worth come from outside myself, through the opinions of other people or from
activities that seem to validate my worth.
__ 14. I find it difficult to be vulnerable and ask for help.
__ 15. I deal with issues of control by attempting to always be in control, or the opposite, by being careful never to be in a position of responsibility.
__ 16. I am extremely loyal to others, even when the loyalty is unjustified.
__ 17. I tend to view the situation with "all or nothing" thinking.
__ 18. I have a high tolerance for inconsistency and mixed messages.
__ 19. I have emotional crisis and chaos in my life.
__ 20. I tend to find relationships in which I feel "needed" and attempt to keep it
that way.
60-80: A very high degree of co-dependent patterns
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