1. You will Learn How
   1. What exactly trauma is
   2. How "single event" trauma affects children
   3. How "chronic" trauma affects children
   4. How inconsistencies, chaos and stress affect children
   5. How "relationship trauma" creates an internal earthquake

2. Ways that Children are Traumatized
   1. Being ignored by a caregiver
   2. Growing up in addicted homes
   3. Being physical or emotionally abused
   4. Being sexually abused
   5. Being overly criticized or shamed
   6. Feeling like an unlovable victim

3. Childhood Defenses against Trauma
   1. Withdrawing or acting out
   2. Pursuing protection against danger
   3. Advertising one's self as weak or harmless
   4. Using drugs or alcohol

II. What is Unconscious Parenting?

1. Ways Unconscious Parents Behave
   1. Using the child as a poison container
   2. Repeating patterns from our own childhood
   3. Handling conflicts just as our parents did

2. Effects of Unconsciously Parenting
   1. What a symbiotic relationship is
   2. How blaming, distancing, and emotional incest affect the child
   3. Why unconsciously parenting is hard to detect

3. The Effects of this Wounding
   1. The child represses or rejects parts of the themselves
   2. The child becomes self-absorbed
   3. The child protects her solve, vulnerable inner self
   4. The child disguises the parts of herself she believes he should hide
   5. Self-hatred is born

III. Breaking the Cycle of Pain

1. Children who are overly protected or emotionally smothered
   1. Why they take on their parent's characteristics, beliefs and values

2. Children who are overly controlled and tyrannized
   1. How they internalize their parent's critical voice
   2. How they can learn to quiet their critical inner voice.

3. Children who are criticized or shamed
   1. How they direct their anger inward and develop self-hatred
   2. How they defend against shame by projecting it onto others

4. Using your "Empowering Tools"
   1. Find a good therapist and Twelve-Step Group
   2. Place what was done to you in the context of your family history
   3. Manage emotions
   4. Have equal relationships
   5. Work on gaining independence from your parents

What You Will Learn
Topic Description

Upcoming Seminars and Classes

Contact Mark Felber and schedule this series for your group.

Office:
Human Connections Counseling Services
Plano, Texas

Phone: (214) 796-2323

E-mail: mark@marriagecpr.com

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